My Mother, the Voice of Reason
My mother had me later in life at 38. Growing up I often felt like she had no idea what was going on in my world. She loved sandals - I loved sneakers, she loved dresses - I loved jeans, and the list went on and on. We were complete opposites, so between thinking she was “old fashioned” and out of touch, I found myself not always listening to her advice and drifting away from her guidance. I felt like every rule was a road block sitting in the middle of my path to self-expression.
My mom was such a lady and I enjoyed playing sports, getting physical and being a “tom boy.” The older I grew, the more I realized that it was the way she said things that challenged me, rather than the reason why or what she was actually saying. I couldn’t see past our differences to embrace our similarities. Looking back, she may not have known everything that was going on in my heart, but I now know her desire was not to take anything away from who I was, but add to the young lady that I was becoming. What looked to me like too many “rights” and “wrongs” turned out to be the building blocks of looking, acting, speaking and becoming the best version of me. Her “rules” were forming boundaries around my values, my purity and my perceptions. She was teaching me to respect myself, my appearance and my dreams. I can still hear my mother’s all too familiar phrase: “Sara, that’s not lady like.” I am grateful that she was so persistent through my selective hearing and wayward attitude. She was the voice of reason in my life affirming my identity that I Am A Queen.
I have no idea who is the voice of reason speaking into your life. Is it your mother, a grandparent, a mentor, teacher, coach or a close relative? Whoever it is – LISTEN! Hear the reason why and what they are saying. That person may not know everything that is happening in your heart, but they may be trying to add to the Queen that you are becoming. One of the best ways to determine the motive of anyone who speaks into your life is to THINK about what is being said. Look for the reason behind the voice of reason.
More than likely, they can see your crown shining more
brightly than you can see it for yourself.
January 16, 2015